Tuesday, November 29, 2005

Passionate Lovers Doomed?

Molecule gives passionate lovers just one year
Tue Nov 29, 1:40 PM ET  (Reuters News Service - Rome)


Your heartbeat accelerates, you have butterflies in the stomach, you feel euphoric and a bit silly. It's all part of falling passionately in love -- and scientists now tell us the feeling won't last more than a year.

The powerful emotions that bowl over new lovers are triggered by a molecule known as nerve growth factor (NGF), according to Pavia University researchers.
The Italian scientists found far higher levels of NGF in the blood of 58 people who had recently fallen madly in love than in that of a group of singles and people in long-term relationships.

But after a year with the same lover, the quantity of the 'love molecule' in their blood had fallen to the same level as that of the other groups.

The Italian researchers, publishing their study in the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology, said it was not clear how falling in love triggers higher levels of NGF, but the molecule clearly has an important role in the "social chemistry" between people at the start of a relationship.

**** Dave's Thoughts ****

So, what do you do once you fall out of love?  Get divorced?  Nearly 60% of couples married less than five years will do so, so don't be too hasty to say no.  The important "take-away" is that ALL of us fall out of love, especially since we've known for quite some time that there's a strong chemical connection to falling in love.  What goes up, must come down… even chemical spikes.  But, there's a way to build love into a relationship that takes you to higher and higher levels of intimacy and actually renews that "falling in love feeling."  Call me for a complimentary couples coaching session to find out more.

~~  Dave, The Couples Coach

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